Butterfly

I’ve been thinking recently about the transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly and the remarkable process which takes place inside the cocoon. During that time of seclusion and apparent inactivity, the caterpillar does not just lose it’s legs and grow wings! Instead, all the structure of the caterpillar breaks down. It becomes something like …

The Death of Shame

I am profoundly grateful for the friends and mentors with whom I have been able to safely share my story. Such valuable relationships are not always easy to find. This is one of the reasons I offer, in my coaching, such a place for shame to die and to have opportunity instead to discover your …

Be Yourself

Authenticity! It’s one of my values and I love and admire it when I see it in somebody else. Even so, I haven’t always found it easy myself! It takes courage to be vulnerable enough to show who we truly are (what if someone doesn’t like what they see?) Learning to love and accept ourselves …

Your Song

I was coaching someone earlier in the week who said he believed birds were singing when he was born. I asked him what, if it could be put into words, were they singing? It was a song of celebration. I thought that was lovely, so I later asked the same question of myself – what …

A Pruning Season

A pruning season When I think of the season we’ve been in during lock down, the metaphor of pruning comes to mind. Pruning a tree involves selectively cutting back or removing unwanted branches in a way that results in improved health, greater fruitfulness and better shape of the tree. Pruning could look like an unwise …

You are what you eat!

‘We are what we eat.’ Whatever we ingest and digest becomes a part of us. This isn’t just true of physical food, though. It includes the things we watch, listen to and think about and so inwardly digest this way. It’s important to be informed about the situation around us and to adhere to the …

Desert Island

Here is something I wrote some time ago when I was journeying through the effects of trauma. Desert Island “I’ve been shipwrecked, and now I’m stranded here on this desert island. I’ve learnt survival and self-sufficiency and can eke out a meagre existence. The gulf between me and the rest of humanity seems huge. It’s …

Paintings

I posted before about ‘floods’ and our foundations. Here is a different image covering a similar theme. I found, in my own journey of recovery from childhood trauma, that the picture I had of my childhood turned out to be very different from the real picture. The image I had was much like a simple, …

Flood!

I want to write some thoughts about the flooding we’ve experienced in UK this week. There has been tragic loss and heartache for people whose homes have been flooded or even partly washed away. These people’s lives will not be the same. In many ways, this is what it is like for those in the …

What is Your Sound?

I want to tell you a little about resonance. I do not claim to be a physicist, but I do know that everything in creation has its own ‘resonant frequency’, its natural, unforced resonance, its ‘favourite’ resonance, at which it operates best. I also understand that when an object is vibrating at the resonant frequency …