First Love Yourself?

I’ve heard it said many times that others can’t love you until you learn to love yourself (I may have even said it myself.) IT ISN’T TRUE! The way we learn to love ourselves is by others first loving us, showing us we matter and have value. It’s ok to need to be loved! We …

Home

I love this quote. We are all looking for ‘home’. This isn’t just a place, it means learning to accept and be at peace with ourselves, even with our imperfections. There is ‘room for improvement’ in all of us and we are all in a process of changing, but it’s important we still love ourselves …

Superhero or Alter-ego?

More on a superhero theme. Many of the well known ‘superheroes’ have a kind of alter-ego. Superman has Clark Kent, Spiderman has Peter Parker, Wonder Woman has Diana Prince. Some of these individuals come across as weak and vulnerable- very human – but they also hide the superhero, who they ‘become’ as necessity arises. Consider, …

Superhero

I know these aren’t for everyone, but I enjoy superhero movies. I especially like those, like the Avengers, where the superheroes are somewhat frail, even slightly messed up, individuals, who manage to overcome their brokenness, unite together and defeat evil. I think that says something hopeful to us all. Whatever our background, we can rise …

Forgiveness- a Key to Freedom

The subject of forgiveness is perhaps a touchy subject for some people, and understandably so, yet something that I have discovered to be hugely and powerfully liberating. We will look in more detail at what forgiveness really is, and what it isn’t! But first let me introduce an evidenced benefit of learning to forgive – …

Lost and Found

I posted a little before about shame. One of the effects of shame is that it causes you to want to hide your true self. You believe that if people see you – really see you – they will realise how defective or wicked you are and will reject you. It’s also true though that …

The Power of Visualisation

 There is something in quantum physics called ‘Collapsing the Quiff.’ This shows that all things are possible in the sub-atomic realm and that as we ‘see’ the possibility or potential of something, it draws it out of the intangible so that it materialises in the physical realm. (I like to think of this as a …

Your Voice Matters

Something I love to do in my coaching is help individuals discover and begin to fulfil their life purpose. One aspect of this is looking at life messages. All of us carry a life ‘message’ (or messages) which have been formed through our unique life experiences. Events in our lives, both good and bad, become …

What is Your Why?

What is your why? You were created for a purpose and this purpose has been embedded in you since you were born. Your purpose flows from who you are. It is expressed through your core passions, your dreams, your personality, the things you are naturally gifted at and the things that make you feel happy, …

Kintsugi

In nature nothing is ever wasted. Even energy is never lost, it just changes form. This can be true of the things that happen in our lives. When we trust God, good can come out of everything. The Japanese art of Kintsugi illustrates this for me. Kintsugi is the art of restoring the broken pieces …